A guide for relatives
Psychedelic therapy can be deeply transformative, but the process can also be challenging for both the person undergoing therapy and their loved ones. If someone you care about has recently had a psychedelic experience in a therapeutic setting, you can play an important role in integrating that experience. This post offers practical tips and insights on how to be present in a supportive way.
1. Increased sensitivity and mood swings are normal
After psychedelic therapy, strong emotions may arise, and the person may seem more sensitive than usual. Mood swings and increased sensitivity are natural parts of the integration phase, where they are processing their insights. If you notice them reacting to small things or withdrawing a little, try to meet them with patience. This can be a period of great vulnerability, and it is important to allow them space to be themselves during this phase.
2. Listen without judging
Often, those who have had a psychedelic experience just need someone to listen. Many people experience insights and emotions that are difficult to put into words, and they often need time and space to process this. When they share, try to listen with an open mind. Avoid interpreting, giving advice, or imposing your own opinions on their experiences – it can interfere with their own process of understanding what they have been through. A supportive and open approach can be incredibly valuable. Example: A person comes home with an experience of having been themselves as a baby. When you get home, your partner says, “That’s not possible. It just sounds like you were high.” Just that small comment can prevent the traveler from exploring this more openly.
3. Observe your own fears and insecurities
For many, psychedelic therapy can seem intimidating or unfamiliar. If you feel unsure, it may be a good idea to read up on how psychedelics are used therapeutically. This can give you a better understanding of why some people choose this approach. Being knowledgeable can also help you feel more confident in your role as a supporter. If you still have questions or concerns, consider reaching out to a psychedelic guide who can provide more information.
4. You also trip…a little
Being around someone who has recently had a profound, psychedelic experience can affect you as a caregiver. You may notice a shift in energy or experience emotions that are triggered by their altered state. Being aware of your own reactions can help you be a steady presence. Reflecting on how you are affected can also provide useful insights, which can improve your understanding of what they are going through.
5. Remind them of the purpose of therapy
Sometimes the integration phase can feel overwhelming, especially if challenging emotions or memories come up. At such times, it can be helpful to remind them of why they started this journey. Often, there is a deeper intention behind their choice to go through psychedelic therapy, and this can help them regain this motivation. Encourage them to reflect on their original intention or review the information and insights they have received from their therapist.
6. Remember that the process takes time
Integration of a psychedelic experience rarely happens overnight. While some people feel back to themselves quickly, others may need several months or longer to process their experiences. Respecting that this process is individual is crucial to supporting them in the best possible way. I always call my clients a couple of days after the experience and countless times I have heard: “I shouldn’t have done this. Now it just got worse.” Then I respond that we need to give it some time. One to two weeks later, people often have a completely different view of the experience. Be patient, and don’t be afraid that they have changed forever. Everything balances out over time. Psychedelic therapy can change how they perceive themselves and their surroundings, and it is important to give them time to grow into these new insights.
7. Offer support without helping
Psychedelic therapy can bring about big, inner changes, and while it may be challenging for you to see them struggling, it's important not to try to help them too much. A tree may need a little support at first, but pulling on it won't help. Your presence and emotional support can be more than enough. Just showing them care and giving them a safe space to share can help them feel less alone in the process.
8. Familiarize yourself with psychedelic integration
For those around someone undergoing psychedelic therapy, it can be helpful to know a little about what integration involves. Integration is the process by which someone who has had a psychedelic experience takes time and reflection to find a meaningful place for the insights in their daily life. Understanding that integration is about weaving new experiences into a larger whole can make it easier to provide relevant support and perspective.
9. Make room for silence
Sometimes they just need to be together in silence, without any conversation or expectation of explanation. Being close, whether you go for a walk, sit by a campfire, or share a quiet meal, can be just as valuable as a conversation. Silence can provide space for reflection and immersion in your own thoughts and feelings. Supporting someone after a psychedelic experience can require patience, openness, and an understanding that the process can take time. By giving space, being listening, and being safe in their presence, you can contribute positively to making the integration process deep and meaningful.