A guide for relatives
Psychedelic therapy can be profoundly transformative, but the process can also be challenging for both the person undergoing the therapy and their loved ones. If someone you care about has recently had a psychedelic experience in a therapeutic context, you can play an important role in integrating this experience. This post provides practical tips and insight into how you can be present in a supportive way.
1. Increased sensitivity and mood swings are normal
After psychedelic therapy, strong emotions may occur, and the person may appear more sensitive than usual. Mood swings and increased sensitivity are natural parts of the integration phase, where they process their insights. If you notice that they react to small things or withdraw a little, try to face them with patience. This can be a period of great vulnerability, and it is important to allow them room to be themselves in this phase.
2. Listen without judgement
Often, those who have had a psychedelic experience just need someone to listen. Many people experience insights and emotions that are difficult to put into words, and they often need time and space to process this. When they share, try to listen with an open mind. Avoid interpreting, giving advice, or projecting your own opinions on their experiences – it can interfere with their own process of understanding what they have been through. A supportive and open approach can be incredibly valuable. Example: A person comes home with an experience of having been himself as a baby. When you get home, your partner says "That's not possible. It just sounds like you were high.” Just that small comment can prevent the traveler from exploring this more with openness.
3. Observe your own fears and insecurities
For many, psychedelic therapy can seem intimidating or unfamiliar. If you feel unsure, you may want to read up on how psychedelics are used therapeutically. This can give you a better basis for understanding why someone chooses this approach. Having knowledge can also help you feel more secure in your role as a support player. If you still have questions or concerns, consider contacting a psychedelic guide who can provide more information.
4. You also trip...a little
Being around someone who has recently had a deep, psychedelic experience can affect you as a relative. Perhaps you yourself notice a change in energy or experience emotions that are awakened in interaction with their changed state. Being aware of your own reactions can help you be a steady presence. Reflections on how you are affected can also provide useful insights, which can improve your understanding of what they are going through.
5. Remind them of the purpose of the therapy
Sometimes the integration phase can feel overwhelming, especially if challenging feelings or memories surface. At such moments, it can be helpful to remind them why they started this journey. Often there is a deeper intention behind their choice to go through psychedelic therapy, and it can help them regain that motivation. Encourage them to reflect on the original intent or review the information and insights they have received from their therapist.
6. Remember that the process takes time
Integration of a psychedelic experience rarely happens overnight. While some quickly feel back to themselves again, others may need several months or longer to process the experiences. Respect for the fact that this process is individual is essential to support them in the best possible way. I always call my clients a couple of days after the experience and countless times I have heard: "I shouldn't have done this. Now it just got worse.” Then I reply that we have to give it some time. One to two weeks later, you usually have a completely different view of the experience. Be patient, and don't be afraid that they have changed forever. Everything balances out with time. Psychedelic therapy can change how they perceive themselves and their surroundings, and it is important to give them time to grow into these new insights.
7. Offer support without helping
Psychedelic therapy can bring about big, inner changes, and while it may be challenging for you to see them struggling, it's important not to try to help them too much. A tree may need some support in the beginning, but pulling on it won't help. Your presence and emotional support can be more than enough. Just showing care and giving them a safe arena to share can help them feel less alone in the process.
8. Get into psychedelic integration
For those who are around someone undergoing psychedelic therapy, it can be helpful to know a little about what integration entails. Integration is the process where the person who has had a psychedelic experience uses time and reflection to find a meaningful place for the insights in their daily life. Understanding that integration is about weaving new experiences into a larger whole can make it easier to provide relevant support and perspective.
9. Allow room for silence
Sometimes they just need to be together in silence, without any conversation or expectation to explain. Being close, whether you go for a walk, sit by a fire, or share a quiet meal, can be just as valuable as a conversation. Silence can give room for reflection and immersion in one's own thoughts and feelings. Supporting someone after a psychedelic experience can require patience, openness and an understanding that the process can take time. By giving space, listening and being safe in their presence, you can make a positive contribution to the integration process becoming deep and meaningful.
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